@Bow It is indeed a cycle hun, which is why it is so hard to break out of!!
Plus, there is that tension between logic brain and emotional brain - logic brain may be able to see and understand that these behaviours are unhelpful or self-destructive... but emotional brain, not so much.
For emotional brain it's like... 'DANGER, DISTRESS, ALERT!' followed by 'Relief! Familiarity! Control!' and how do we tell emotional brain that finding those things from these habitual behaviours is 'wrong'? It doesn't understand moral concepts like right and wrong, it only understands safety and danger.
It's hard darlin, and you are not a failure for finding yourself in this familiar place. Your brain is just trying to protect you in the ways it knows how 💜
Mmm hot choccie coming up!! I'll fetch the marshmallows! 😋
